As a child, you might have experienced things that seemed normal at the time but were actually forms of abuse. Recognising these experiences is important because they can have lasting effects on your mental and emotional well-being as an adult. Here are 10 signs of childhood abuse that you might not have realised and their impacts:

1. Constant Criticism

If you were always criticised or belittled as a child, it could have hurt your self-esteem. This constant negativity can lead to self-doubt and difficulty in believing in your own worth.

2. Emotional Neglect

When your feelings and needs were ignored, it can make you feel unimportant or unloved. This can lead to issues with trust and forming close relationships later in life.

3. Over-Controlling Behaviour

If your parents were overly controlling and didn’t allow you any freedom, you might struggle with independence and decision-making as an adult. It can also cause feelings of resentment and frustration.

4. Exposure to Domestic Violence

Witnessing violence between your parents or caregivers can lead to anxiety and a fear of conflict. This might make it hard for you to feel safe in relationships or manage stress effectively.

5. Forced to Take on Adult Responsibilities

Being made to take care of siblings or manage household tasks meant for adults can cause feelings of being overwhelmed. This might lead to stress and a sense of not having had a proper childhood.

6. Inconsistent Discipline

If the rules and consequences in your home were unpredictable, it can create confusion and anxiety. You might struggle with boundaries and expectations in your relationships.

7. Being Used as a Messenger or Middleman

If you were put in the position of relaying messages or dealing with conflicts between adults, it can create feelings of being caught in the middle. This might affect your ability to assert yourself and manage interpersonal conflicts.

8. Physical Punishment

Experiencing physical punishment, even if it was considered normal at the time, can lead to feelings of fear and helplessness. This can impact your self-esteem and relationships.

9. Lack of Physical Affection

Growing up without hugs or physical affection can make you feel unloved or unworthy. This might affect your ability to give and receive affection in your adult relationships.

10. Neglect of Basic Needs

If your basic needs like food, clothing, or medical care were not met, it can lead to feelings of insecurity and anxiety. This can affect your overall health and well-being.

Why It Matters and How Therapy Can Help

Understanding these forms of abuse and their impacts is crucial for healing. Therapy provides a safe space to explore these experiences and their effects on your current life. It can help you develop healthier coping strategies and improve your emotional well-being.

As a female psychotherapist specialising in working with women, I offer support to help you address and heal from these childhood experiences.

For more information on how therapy can support your healing journey, visit my website. To schedule a session or ask any questions, please contact me