What this means

Your answers suggest some difficult or confusing relationship dynamics, but not a strong pattern of narcissistic abuse. That said, if something in this quiz felt familiar — even one or two questions — it's worth paying attention to. Difficult relationships exist on a spectrum, and early awareness is always valuable.

How therapy can help

Therapy can help you get clearer on what's actually happening in your relationship, separate your feelings from self-doubt, and decide what you want. You don't need to be certain something is wrong to benefit from support.

• Getting clearer on what's healthy and what isn't
• Rebuilding trust in your own perception and instincts
• Understanding relationship patterns you may be repeating
• Feeling more confident making decisions for yourself

What working together would look like

We'd start with a free 20-minute call to talk about what's brought you here. If you decide to go further, sessions are 50 minutes, usually fortnightly. We'd work at your pace — no agenda to push you toward leaving or staying, just space to get clearer.

What this means

What you're describing points to some real and significant patterns of harm. Relationship trauma doesn't always look dramatic from the outside — it often shows up quietly, as confusion, self-doubt, and a slow shrinking of who you are. The fact that you're here, asking these questions, matters.

How therapy can help

Specialist therapy for relationship trauma and narcissistic abuse is different to general counselling. It's not about deciding whether your relationship counts as abusive enough — it's about helping you understand your experience and find your way back to yourself.

• Rebuilding trust in your own perception — often the first thing to go
• Processing the confusion, shame and self-blame that builds up over time
• Understanding why these dynamics are so hard to leave or make sense of
• Developing clarity about what you want and what you deserve
• Rebuilding your confidence and sense of identity

What working together would look like

We'd begin with a thorough initial session to understand your history and what's brought you here. Sessions are 50 minutes and typically weekly to begin with. I use a trauma-informed, feminist approach — which means I work at your pace, never push you toward a particular decision, and always take your experience seriously.

What this means

You've been living with something that has cost you a great deal — your confidence, your sense of reality, possibly your sense of who you are. This is not your fault. You are not too sensitive. What you're experiencing has a name, and it's treatable. You are not stuck here forever.

How therapy can help

Specialist therapy for narcissistic abuse works at a deeper level than general support. We focus on the specific ways this kind of relationship damages a person — the loss of self-trust, the trauma bonding, the confusion, the grief — and we work to rebuild from the inside out.

• Reestablishing your grip on reality after sustained gaslighting
• Processing the trauma responses that may feel stuck in your body
• Understanding trauma bonding — why it's so hard to leave or detach emotionally
• Rebuilding your identity and sense of self outside the relationship
• Working through grief — for the relationship, the person you thought they were, and the time you've lost
• Developing safety and confidence to move forward, at your own pace

What working together would look like

We'd begin with a detailed first session to understand your full picture — your history, the relationship, and what you most need right now. I hold a specialist qualification as a Narcissistic Abuse Treatment Clinician (trained with Dr Ramani Durvasula) and have 25 years of experience working exclusively with women. Sessions are 50 minutes. Intensive formats are also available if you want to move more quickly.